Can role play be therapeutic for victims of rape or sexual assault?
March 22010
I have seen a few questions approaching this subject indirectly so I felt it might be interesting to ask it directly and I could use the advice too
Four years ago when I was 18 I was raped by a stranger. A counselor suggested to me that some survivors sometimes find role play an effective way to get the feelings out that we so often repress because of shame and anger, etc.
A trusted friend of mine helped me arrange to role play the rape in a realistic way and I found it to be liberating and emotionally satisfying. I feel much more confident emotionally and sexually today because of the counseling I’ve received and the role play my friend and I engaged in.
I suppose that such role play is risky for some victims though and one survivor I know has asked my opinion about whether it is right for her. I told her that her counselor would know better but she wants my opinion anyway. Anyone with knowledge of this subject out there, if you would weigh in I would appreciate it.
I has sexually assaulted a couple times when I was younger. I started participating in role-rape as I got older. It really really has helped me. I don’t know how it helped… but it did. I was like after doing role-rape several times… it made me feel better about myself… make me feel stronger. Again, I don’t know why it helped… it just did.
Now I am 27 and I have a wonderful husband, who I have NEVER had role-rape with… he is a very gentle man… and a beautiful baby girl (7 months) and I am 5 months pregnant (it’s a girl too). I don’t feel like just someones sexual toy like I did after being assaulted. I have a great self-esteem now. I am a strong and smart woman, not just another sex toy.
Some people may think this sounds taboo and crazy, but it helped me. Good luck and stay strong.
If you need to talk you can IM me… mommybeautiful_312… my husband’s nickname for me is beautiful… 
March 2nd, 2010 at 3:50 pm
i was raped and i wrote him a letter and tore it up forgave him and flushed the paper in the toilet.
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March 2nd, 2010 at 3:58 pm
i reckon its each to their own
and i am sorry you have to deal with such a thing in your life
my own personal belief is that it can add to further abuse/self abuse
or at least confusion ( i think "sex" is over rated as it is…we dont know the full negative consequences of it yet….apart from possible sexually transmitted diseases… i mean..we know the positives of sex…. pleasure etc…)
i feel that there are better ways to heal this type of trauma..
(if it can ever be healed fully….at least so its managable and good peace of mind is achieved…)
it will be better in the long run when we understand what causes people to rape or sexually abuse….and find a way to stop it before it ever happens….
(thats my own personal belief….i dont wish to cause any more pain to anyone with such a sensitive and painful subject)
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March 2nd, 2010 at 4:47 pm
I’ve never been raped but i’ve been to war and that is the same thing. I spent years stuffing the feelings because I was told like some rape victims my problems are my own fought. Like I wante to go ten thousand miles away from home and kill people. However you do it the sooner you take care of it the better.
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March 2nd, 2010 at 5:35 pm
With such a deep trauma such as your experience,i wouldn’t know what to do ,but give my friend a long hug.Take care.
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March 2nd, 2010 at 6:08 pm
I has sexually assaulted a couple times when I was younger. I started participating in role-rape as I got older. It really really has helped me. I don’t know how it helped… but it did. I was like after doing role-rape several times… it made me feel better about myself… make me feel stronger. Again, I don’t know why it helped… it just did.
Now I am 27 and I have a wonderful husband, who I have NEVER had role-rape with… he is a very gentle man… and a beautiful baby girl (7 months) and I am 5 months pregnant (it’s a girl too). I don’t feel like just someones sexual toy like I did after being assaulted. I have a great self-esteem now. I am a strong and smart woman, not just another sex toy.
Some people may think this sounds taboo and crazy, but it helped me. Good luck and stay strong.
If you need to talk you can IM me… mommybeautiful_312… my husband’s nickname for me is beautiful…
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March 2nd, 2010 at 6:18 pm
So you role-played your rape with a guy and you said it was realistic? Did you let him fuck you? Did you suck his dick? Did you enjoy being raped by your friend during the role-play? How did that help you deal with the rape? Was the role play sexually satisfying? Or was the rape better than the role play? Did you have more orgasms during the role play or during the rape?
Do you role-play your rape a lot? Do you fantasize about the rape? It seems that you must if you like to role-play being raped? Doesn’t role-playing rape make you want to be raped again?
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